As the husband of a woman who was raped while she was at BYU, I can tell you that there is a big issue at BYU. This rapist chose Provo because he knew how victims rarely come forward because of the shame that is prevalent on campus toward anything sexual and the knowledge that at the time women could possibly be kicked out so they wouldn't say anything. Needless to say, after she reported many girls she knew told her what had happened to them by the same man but they were still too scared to come forward. He made bail and skipped out only to be caught years later. Don't even get me started on how she was spiritually manipulated after to give a child up for adoption.
Needless to say, she didn't graduate from BYU and is still figuring out how to love herself nearly 30 years later.
The honor code office often lacks the most amazing thing that Christ gave us and that was his grace. Then again, I know many Mormons at church who only believe in conditional grace so I guess it makes sense. Please forgive me for using the term "Mormon", It is easier to type out than Members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Plus I am a heathen who is ok with and actually prefers being called a Mormon.
Thank you for sharing this perspective. I can only imagine how hard that must be for her and for you as well. I also don't mind being called a Mormon. And regular Mormons, in general, live up to their reputation of being judgemental. Now add in an Honor Code restricting things not even needed to get into the temple and the culture of students reporting and tattling on each other, and you have even greater judging going on. One thing that most Mormons could learn from other Christians is about grace. Let the HONOR code be about HONOR and let my mistakes be between me, the Lord, and if needed, my bishop. No one else.Statistics: Posted by byufan4ever — Mon Apr 15, 2019 2:33 pm
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